I haven't told my work or even many people in my life about my WLS and I'm so glad I didn't. My achilles heel is the weight I've struggled with since I was 8 years old...in the last 10 years it has gotten out of control. Thanks to the Lap Band and my recent thyroid removal, I feel like I'm addressing the issue...
Now about the Fat Attack. Today I was talking to my sister...she is a good sister, an attorney, a mom...I was disagreeing with her on something and suddenly it came out, an attack to my jungular..."No one's perfect, like look at you...YOU NEED TO LOSE at least 85 lbs and are by no means perfect!!!!". She knew weight is the thing that makes me feel the most vulnerable and ashamed and that her comment would shut me down. Being a trial attorney, the execution was excellent and sucker punched me. Ironically, she is not thin...she has gained 40 lbs since getting married but she has positive body dysmorphia; she feels much thinner than she is. OK but the moral of the story is that this sucker punch validated my reasons for having surgery so that I could address my weight issues and get rid of this Achilles Heel once and for all. I want to feel healthy and strong; but from a human level I don't want to be vulnerable to these attacks. I know I'm a grown up and have a great life and these things should not get to me, but they do.
She hasn't seen me since my surgery since she lives across the country so I look forward to protecting myself from these attacks in the future from her and society in general because to be honest, there is a lot of fat discrimination, even from kind people. People who don't know you and people who know you hold prejudices in their minds and misjudge and misunderstand you. I want to give myself the fairest shot there is.