One thing I realize is that succeeding at weight loss means addressing the things that made me gain weight...for me frankly it was S-T-R-E-S-S!!!! Thanks to the band, I can't eat away my stress...thanks to the painful consequences (girls you know what I'm talking about: wild projectile vomitting, abdominal pain etc). I ask myself how I could have gained 60 lbs in the last 13 years and it is easy...I really ate my stress away. Lately I'm just facing things more...now that is a beautiful thing. It is messy and more difficult but its been a great thing and a healthy thing.
Facing Conflict-I shared that I had a colleague who told me in an open forum that he wished we could rewrite our client deliverables in "Good English". I just told him directly that the clients loved the work we gave them and there was no need. I took the time to explain myself and the things I did. The old me would eat away the stress and then just explode one day when the stress and anger got too bad. Really I was like an overweight tea pot.
Facing Hysteria-My project lead has been having contentious fights with a co worker. They have gone for each others throats...The horrible thing is they come to me for advice and stopped talking directly to each other and through me. I just told both that they need to talk directly to each other. I don't know why but I would never have said that pre band. If emotions get too uncomfortable I just avoid them.
Obsessing About the Kids-Everything related to the kids made me worry. I married late, had kids late, didn't get pregnant right away. The kids are obviously very precious to me and everything related to them: their friends, their diets, their school, their activities...I was very pre occupied with it. I think it is a control issue and I think as they get older that is not necessarily healthy. They are actually doing very well in school and are well liked etc. But I spent a lot of sleepless nights worrying about them. And I think that added to my stress. I'm really not sure where this comes from but since getting the band, I worry less.
I think this one goes to my perfectionism...kids are people and can't be perfect and you can't create a perfect life for them.
I'm very curious how you handle the things which made you eat.
The band helps and BLOGGING to you folks helps a lot too.