I just got off a conference call with work colleagues. We just finished a project that got major kudos...I was subbing for a guy who was having prostate surgery. Jim is a loud, opinionated man in his 50s. And he returned this week and my boss decided to keep me on the project since the client really liked my work.
So now I'm on the team with Jim, the guy I was brought into sub for.
We started talking about our work and Jim said, he was looking at our deliverables (which the client loved) and said that he wished we could rewrite some of the stuff in plain, good English. I'm Asian, the rest of the team is not. I wrote most the deliverables. Every time I'd chime in he'd over power me with loud, aggressive language. After two hours, I'm exhausted. This week he also chimed in about looking down upon his 30 year old daughter who ballooned after having kids and looks like a cow. This makes me paranoid because now I feel that he's looking down on my for my weight and my inability to write "good english". He's everything you really don't want to see in a man: bigoted, loud, opinionated, not a good listener. BTW, I have two advanced degrees from pretty reputable schools where I learned how to write "good english". On the whole most people are nice and very intelligent and reasonable. Its just the occassional crazy colleague/client that drives me over the edge.
My first impulse when things like this happen is to go out for a great lunch. But I've been negotiating myself off the over eating ledge. I'm trying to think things out and talk them out and blog them out. Really its incidents like this which used to trigger my over eating because I'd soothe my stress with food.
How do you talk yourself out of old over eating triggers?
Have a good weekend. For the record, I didn't over eat and don't plan too. I've come too far.